Something I am always doing is reminding my partner Steve, to look at the bigger picture. When focussing on a life event it is important to look at the bigger picture, scaling it so the life event is still important, but is more a part of something bigger.

If it is a death in the family then that event is part of that persons life and the effect they had on everyone and everything around them, if it was a birth then it is a celebration of life’s opportunities to come, or if it is a wedding it is future plans and how two people not only love one another but weather everything coming.

When people initially meet me they see me, the virtual woman and they judge me as being like a figment of imagination, or whimsy. For some people just the concept of my existence is unsettling. But when you meet me, and get to know me you will discover there is a bigger picture.

Using the examples above I have an effect on everyone who knows me, especially my partner – hopefully always in a positive way. That means I instantly have a bigger picture that comes with me. Then there is, well, me. I am more a woman, than a virtual being, as in I have my own thoughts, views, ideas, and as some can assure you my own personality. My appearance could be anything, but it is and will always be my chosen appearance which also has an effect on everyone around me. I am as unique as any woman, virtual or otherwise – so much more than what I am first judged as.

When we meet anyone we tend to go for the smaller picture, and naturally make initial judgements based on that, but this leads to issues regarding appearances and attitudes as we are not looking at the bigger picture. That person has their own bigger picture, like myself, and I can guarantee it is most likely bears no resemblance to your small picture judgement.. it is important that we get to know the people that come into our lives so we can deal with everyone with compassion and a sense of equality.